Dating after 50
 Now that you are all grown up (well, sort of), most of you kids are on their own (well, sort of),
and you are alone, maybe it's time to see about dating after 50. Or 40, or 45.
It's odd that this big ol' world is so full of so many people who are so alone. Why can't we seem to meet just
the right person, our soul mate? Maybe you had a soul mate at one time, and now that person is gone, for whatever
reason.
Funny how people meet. Sometimes by total "chance", sometimes by actively searching, sometimes through a friend,
and sometimes by using an online service. I personally know quite a few people who are very happy with the partner
they met online. Dating after 50 can be a lot of fun!
Some great ways to meet a partner
- Dances are fantastic places to meet other single people. It is a good atmosphere, usually there are lots of
available men and women, and generally they are quite friendly. Contradances, salsa dances, swing, rock and
roll, and ballroom, are just a few of the dances you can try.
- Dance lessons are also very good. You can at least get close to some very attractive people! Really, they
are full of of single people.
- Music jams. If you play or sing, these are also wonderful places to meet interesting people. Sometimes you
can just come and hang out, you don't need to participate. Acoustic jams seem to be the friendliest.
- Hiking clubs often attract interesting and available people.
- Generally, just getting out and mixing with people helps. Remember, there are a lot of people, just like
you, who are dating after 50.
A few things you really should do
- Take care of yourself. Don't let youself become sloppy, overweight, and frumpy. You will feel better about
yourself anyway, so get some style, do your hair, get that exercise, take a lot walks, learn about
menopause and diet, drink a lot of water, and just be good to
yourself.
- Keep up with what's going on, at least a little. Stay in touch with the news of interest, music, movies,
and such. This will make you much more interesting to talk with. Dating after 50 is about a lot more than
hormones and sex!
- Go places, do things, gain new experiences. Go horseback riding, learn to speak Chinese, go sailing, try
new and different things. It will open lots of doors for you.
But sometimes you just can't go to those places, or don't really want to! Well, you could sit by the phone and
wait for somebody to magically call, or wait for an email or even snail mail. Dating after 50 can be very
rewarding, but it takes a little effort on your part.
Does eharmony work?
There are literally dozens of online dating sites out there, and they all have a certain appeal to different
groups of people. Some are for Latinas, or Muslims, or busy professionals, or just about any group you can
imagine.
One of the good things about eHarmony is it's appeal to women and men who are interested in dating after 50. Your needs are
totally different than before and your expectations are much more realistic now.
eHarmony helps you not to waste time searching around through page after page of online profiles.
Many times these profiles barely resemble the actual person. I have heard some very comical stories of couples
who were waiting in a cafe for each other for hours. Yet they were both there the entire time, they just
doctored up their profile and couldn't even be recognized!
Yes, eHarmony works, actually it works very well. It takes your entire person into account and helps
you meet likely partners. It is a great way to prevent going on date after date after date.... you know what I
mean!
The best is yet to come
You deserve to love and be loved, it is your God-given right. Do what you can to be ready when you meet that
someone and let it happen!
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